How tracking your patterns and writing your intentions allows you to see just how much you’re accomplishing.
It’s been three months since I hard launched My Best Stripper Self and the MB$$ Tracker Planner. No pre-orders, no ramp up, no sneak-peeks. Just, “Btw, I published a book”.
The feedback I’ve received has been overwhelmingly positive. Everyone enjoys the large print, diagrams, and accessibility of information. Many people who have been my longtime supporters, although unfamiliar to Strip Clubs, were surprised to see how applicable the principles were to their own businesses. Which, if you’ve read the book, know that was one of my main goals in writing it: to show you that Stripping is a Business, and that the more we discuss that, the more we de-stigmatize it.
A few things I’ve noticed in the conversations with other Strippers, is that while they were very receptive to the idea of supporting me as a person, they were equally uncomfortable with taking a closer look at their own patterns and identifying which ones would benefit from a change (applying the book's concepts to themselves). This looked like people purchasing the book, but not actually reading it. Or, purchasing it with the skepticism that I had any value to provide them. And further- purchasing the book, but absolutely refusing the tracker because “I don’t need to know what I’m doing wrong, I know it’s everything”. To which I say- “But don’t you want to know what you’re doing right so you can repeat that pattern and repeat it regularly?!”
Understandably, looking inward and self-reflection are incredibly difficult skills to learn. So much of our lives are subjected to judgement- and shame is all too commonly projected onto others. The limiting belief of “I’m doing everything wrong” is self-sabotage at its finest, and the fear that fogs one’s ability to grow keeps them stuck in the same place, repeating the same cycles they are wanting to change. Sure, you ran a marathon- but you ran it on a treadmill, so did you actually go anywhere or did you just expend your energy? It requires a fair amount of self-confidence and bravery to integrate change and growth into ourselves. All of which make one a target for the same judgement and shame their fear is trying to protect them from. I've been there, I understand.
While we know that anxiety is a liar, and fear is manipulator, I find comfort in dismissing those emotions with receipts. There’s a certain type of power in recording that I accomplished XYZ, and then flipping back one or two pages to see exactly where I wrote, “I want more of XYZ”. Our goals and intentions don’t need to be laundry lists of ‘to do’ items. That just feels like a task, to which we beat ourselves up for when we don’t check them off. Our goals and intentions simply need to be captured into hard evidence, so when we look back we can see just how capable we really are.
We’re so conditioned to believe that the phrase, ‘actions have consequences’ is solely a bad thing, and it doesn’t have to be. A ‘consequence’ is a result, and a result is not a judgement, but an outcome. It is entirely possible to use that phrase in its duality. Observing how many achieved goals started off as fleeting thoughts is a consequence of writing them down.
A month ago, I wrote down: “I want to turn couples into VIP rooms rather than private dances.” A week ago I reported- “I sold the most VIPS in one night than I ever have before, and they were ALL couples”. *
Three weeks ago, I wrote: “I want larger tips to reflect the value I’ve provided” and today I reported- “I received multiple $5, $10 and $20 tips on every one of my stage sets”. **
I can’t expect myself to remember everything it is that I want, and there is literally no harm in writing down those hopeful thoughts we refer to as intentions. I don’t have a ‘manager’ or a ‘boss’ or a ‘data analyst’ to tell me what I’m doing right or wrong- I have to be all of those things for myself. Which, honestly is preferred anyway. I get to choose what I am focusing on, and when I have this little ‘evidence’ trail of the things I want leading to the things I have, that fuels the fire within me that is my self-trust.
Ultimately, I’m trying to show you how when you incorporate these skills, you see not just how well you’re doing, but also how simple the path to become better is. I am also showing you the same way I show myself- with the receipts. Watching yourself succeed is exciting and validating, and being gentle with yourself in the areas of opportunity while you do so, is a skill that rewards you exponentially.
I wrote My Best Stripper Self as a culmination of what a decade and a half in the industry paired with years of intense talk therapy has taught me. I wrote it in a tone that is supportive, yet firm. I want anyone who reads it to make more money in whatever industry they’re in. I want to step away from the non-conducive thoughts of “this feels like homework” and “what could you teach me” because let’s be real: I am not assigning anyone anything, and it is the reader who teaches themselves. I am simply giving you tools and showing you how to use them.
Click here to get your copy of My Best Stripper Self, and your MB$$ Tracker Planner.
I look forward to continue showing you just how simple the path from identifying patterns to repeating and enhancing them is.
xo,c
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