Be Both- Mentorship for Career Strippers

A lot of people perceive Stripping to be a last resort, or a means to an end.  And I say that with confidence because I believed that to be the case when I first entered the industry. I saw it as an opportunity used for the sole purpose of achieving a larger goal, not as a process of its own value. I will admit that the belief was heavily influenced by the stigma surrounding Stripping. When I started, I felt it was something to be kept a secret for as long as possible, and then once outed, I become apologetic to avoid the stigma from being projected onto me.

I know better now.

I have been a Stripper since September of 2010, and in my decade and a half of being in this industry, I have learned a lot about what it means to be an Entrepreneur. I remember a busy Friday night, seeing the more veteran strippers come in with their designer bags, luxury cars, and wondering, “How are they doing this?” “How are they able to buy houses, and go on vacations, and afford nice things?” “How are they selling hours and hours of Champagne Rooms?” “What are they doing in there? How could I keep someone’s attention that long? They’re making over a thousand dollars a night? HOW?!”

I also fell into the trap of believing that “I would be happy if I just did this” or, “once I achieve this, I’ll feel secure enough for that” and you know what- that is a dangerous headspace to be in. I was in this game by myself. I didn’t have anyone to talk to about it, I didn’t have friends within the industry yet because I was scared to, and the most dangerous thought was- “I don’t need to figure it out because, A: this is the most money I’ve ever made in my life, and B: I’ll be out of this game soon.”

Fast forward sixteen years.

My story has its own nuances and complications. However, the main plot of “girl starts stripping to make ‘quick money’ is surprised to find she’s still stripping 16 years later” is something that I’ve come across time and time again. It’s a common yet, uncommon pattern throughout the industry, and even more uncommon- I guess you would say the anomaly- is the decade-long Career Stripper who is a fully functioning Sole Proprietor of a successful business.  She is single, entirely self-sufficient, financially stable, multiple streams of income, and even has an investment portfolio among other appreciating assets.

That is the Stripper that I identify as, and my goal is to manifest more of them by taking on a Mentee.

I am seeking someone who knows they want to be a Career Stripper. Not just to meet a financial goal, or to ‘get paid to party’- but to utilize the Club to create their own version of Whatever She Wants. Someone who is continually working to become her Best Stripper Self, and understands that showing up and being pretty is not enough. I am not seeking someone to just copy what I am doing- because what works for me likely will not work for them. What I am seeking is a specific type of individual who wants to create a life that they can look at and say “if it’s not this, send it back.”

If that sounds like you, continue reading.

 

A lot of Strippers know how to dance, but few understand that dancing is not a requirement of the job. Taking your clothes off and going on stage rotation is. No one in the club is going to teach you how to dance, let alone give a dance. But they are going to tell you to pay your HouseFee and show up for your stage set.

A huge part of the industry and how you make your money is not by looking pretty and getting naked. It’s by active listening and identifying the cues of when to ask for a sale. Whether you’re selling a dance, a room, or a conversation, how you ask for the sale is the most important part. It just so happens that you get to involve nudity into the ask. With any sales position however, the response you will receive the most is rejection. And when you’re involving nudity and receiving rejection, it can take a toll on you if you aren’t prepared.

Most dancers don’t have the emotional regulation skills to handle ongoing rejection. That’s when you start to hear them say things like how they “need a drink to get into the headspace”. But the ones that do possess those skills, and can do the work sober, are the ones who can create sustainability in their business, and are more likely to become the Career Strippers.

I want to work with someone who is interested in developing those skills. Someone who understands that Stripping is Selling, that you can’t pay your bills with alcohol, and that building a personal brand and reputation is key to longevity in the industry.

Don’t get me wrong, what you choose to do with your body is your choice, but I have found sobriety to be successful for me, and am seeking others who want to give it a try.

Still with me? Keep reading.

 

I am seeking to mentor someone who truly believes that Stripping can facilitate Whatever She Wants. I am choosing to be selective in who I mentor because as with anything I do in my life, I am going to be all-in and invested in their success. I will be sharing the knowledge and resources that I have accumulated over the past 16+ years in hopes that they will be used respectfully and effectively. My openness and care for my mentees to succeed is something that isn’t to be taken lightly.

It is very often said that it is not what you know, but who you know. In mentoring, I am building an inner circle of community ambassadors with access to my professional network. My name and reputation will be attached to you. I will go to bat for you. But I will also not hesitate to remind someone ‘we don’t do that here’ if the time calls for it.

 

Stripping has been my longest standing career. Yes, at its foundation it is survival work. Yes, I got into the industry when I felt it was not just my only option, but also my best option. Yes, I have had success in many other fields, but nothing has given me the ability to choose Whatever She Wants quite like Stripping.

I have been the Stripper who didn’t know how to ask for a sale, a tip, a vip room, another dance, or another hour. I’ve sat with people for far too long hoping they’d just magically pay me. Or, let them buy me drinks instead of dances. I have also been the stripper who didn’t know how to do less for more, or make VIP money on the club floor. I’ve been the stripper to get mixed up with thinking customers are friends, or thinking that $1,000 is a lot of money. I’ve also fell victim to thinking that I owe customers something because they tipped me well that one time…

But I have also been the Stripper to get paid to talk. Or get a 500% tip just because I had the audacity to ask. I’ve worked through abusive relationships, divorce, heartbreak, and injury- taking a bit of solace in the fact that for a few hours, I could pretend to be someone else entirely. I have had Sugar Daddies, Submissives, FanGirls, and haters. I’ve been doxxed, exposed, deepfaked and leaked. And through it all, I found a way to create a life where I felt like I truly didn’t answer to anyone.

I leveled up my work with two critical changes- I got divorced, and I got sober. A facilitator for those changes was a lot of therapy, which taught me useful skills like boundaries and emotional regulation. From there I found space to begin planning for my future- not a future depending on a partner. Thats when I began investing, built my website, and published my second book.

I have control over my life now, and with that clarity and control I can design what comes next. Stripping for sure can be a means to an end, but for me it has been the facilitator. I love that the hardest decision of my day is choosing where I want to have coffee.

 

If you have read this far, and you envision a life that feels similar, yet unique to you- I would like to connect. I’m not looking for money up front. I’m looking for connection, and desire to grow. Mentorship is a relationship, and I want those around me to succeed. It is only fair that we interview each other before embarking on such a journey.

I am seeking driven individuals who are comfortable in their mind and body and see a long term future in the Adult Industry. I care about personal growth, not superfluous numbers on socials. It is okay to start from scratch just s much as it is to already have a successful foundation. I am aiming to support   Strippers into having sustainable routines, personal lives and, retirement accounts. All good practices for a prolific career.

If this feels like the direction you’re ready to go, please fill out the Google Form by clicking the link below. I can only help a few at a time, and have an ongoing waitlist. Submissions will be answered in the order they are received. 

xoxo, c